Days off of work
Apr. 20th, 2026 05:49 pmFriday the visiting nurse called and said she'd be here for Dad's blood work by 9AM. Yay..that way I could get stuff done. Boo...she was over an hour late. I decided to take Dad for a physical therapy walk to the cafe where he eats breakfast and then to the corner store. He did well. We made it there in 20 minutes. Last week it was over 35 minutes. People were happy to see Dad. He seems to have a fan club.
When we got home my Texas Uncle called and we talked for an hour. He is the only family member that has asked me how I was doing. I appreciated that. After the call I zoned out and did nothing. That was good as I was very tired. I have lots of things spinning in my head and that is running me down.
I was still a slug on Saturday. Well half a slug. Dad care takes about 4 hours. I still have issues with food prep. Since I am the only income in the house I still have to combine meals and Im not liking a lot of the meals. I did go out and buy a nice cod loin for dinner, but once cooked I found the texture spongy. It was a captain's cut loin and not cheap. Dad liked it, but I wasn't happy...and I love fish.
Yesterday I went to the cousin's with Dad. I went to see if they needed any help with yard things or with the on going move of stroke cousin. They had some frozen chicken parm thing for lunch that tasted like a sponge with spaghetti sauce on it... I think I need a food therapist.... sigh. I did help them move some chairs over to the Nursing home for her.
Seeing stroke cousin at the home upset me. My cousin was very educated and very independent and things have changed so much since I saw her at Thanksgiving. Even at the weddings we went to she was conversational and with it...just manipulative about getting people to do things for her. I think that being scammed and her sisters' reactions to her caused a mental breakdown. She knew who I was, but her cognitive function was no longer what it had been a few months ago. We had to bring over chairs for her as she broke 2 chairs in the dining room and 2 in the TV room. They will not allow her in a recliner as she soiled one. It's so sad.
Today the sun was out and I was productive. I started spring cleaning. I was able to carry an old cheap desk out of the house and bring up the antic sewing table that I was to use for my bead station. I hope get a little bit done everyday. I also hope to purge a lot of things. I can't stand the clutter anymore.
Doonesbury Say What
Apr. 19th, 2026 11:51 am-- Sean Hannity
And you've been spreading lies and distorting news for 27 years on Fox. You may have studied it, but clearly you didn't absorb it and don't practice it except possibly in a superficial way.
And perhaps the brain-dead POTUS does take questions all the time. He deviates and avoids answering them at all costs, insults those who asks them, and lies to avoid any possibility of accurately answering them. You really can't compare him to the Pope. And if you think you can, then your much further gone than I thought.
I expect people ask the Pope questions on a regular basis. There's a difference between asking a question and questioning the basis of their reasoning, which is what you want to do. You want to ask entrapping questions, "gotchas", to score points with the MAGA base and prop up your boss in the White House. There's no way you want to honestly debate theology because you'd be left a charred pile of ash.
Quiet weekend in
Apr. 19th, 2026 09:13 amDid manage to solve a longstanding eyesore of cables and needed accessories by the TV yesterday, relocating and hiding them all inside the entertainment center. This has long been an issue, and was one of the first things you saw when you came around the corner and saw the TV setup. Now, no more loose wires and doodads hanging out, and all the peripherals that needed them are working. Yay!
Too good not to share.
Apr. 18th, 2026 03:45 pmCribbed from Marilyn's Facebook page, a song about Rome's Nero, which directly references the current U.S "Nero" in office. Doesn't solve anything, but nice to see folks being aware.
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Apr. 15th, 2026 04:41 amThe last couple of days have had me more exhausted than before. They wanted a huge holiday type dinner on Sunday but could not tell me what time. Then yesterday my Dad's sister and husband showed up at 3 pm to see my sister before she went home and I had to figure out dinner... while dealing with my Dad's restricted now including no salad greens diet.
Last night her partner told me how sad my Sister is to be leaving as she misses everyone, even the loud cousins. I do get it. I'd like to see them once or twice a month to do something fun. Seeing us would be easy if she'd get on a plane. I won't be comfortable for a while to bring Dad on a plane, but the first trip will be to Chicago and they can meet us (the next flight will either be Florida or Vegas...for Dad trips)
I am happy that I am no longer chaos maid.
I have Dad's next 2 Dr appointments scheduled complete with rides. He has been approved by the physical therapist for work, I just need the NP's release and off he goes. I am thinking May 1 because we need to see what the latest meds due with his blood pressure.
I have Friday off and Monday is a holiday so I am planning me time. I want to sleep past 3:30 AM. If it rains I get to put the house back in order. If is not raining I garden and go to the beach.
Oh,and Frankie brought me a gift this morning.. a mouse. Sad for the mouse, but my kitty does his job. Just happy he didn't bring one to me yesterday with company here.
Tools
Apr. 14th, 2026 09:51 pmThat stuck with me (obviously), and I think it's a useful framing to think about whatever device someone might be using to track activities (garmin, apple watch, etc.). It's definitely an attitude I make sure people know I have with regard to my work cell phone - that thing is for my convenience; it's not an electronic leash whereby anyone can reach me at any time.
I just found a cool Excel function!
Apr. 14th, 2026 01:33 pmI'm finishing up our taxes. Normally I'd finish them in February or March, but it's been a heck of a few months. One of the things that I do is dump all my prescription drug purchases into a spreadsheet and calculate the day of the week, so I can take a mileage deduction on my state taxes for weekend pickups since I'm not working those days.
Nevermind whether or not we're going to dinner or a movie....
Anyway, the function ends up being:
=IF(WEEKDAY(A1,2)>5,42,"")
A1 is my date field of when the transaction takes place. By default, i.e. without a number changing the day of the week for the date the starting DOW is Sunday = 1. By supplying the 2, you're telling Excel that Monday = 1, therefore if the DOW is greater than 5, it's Saturday or Sunday, therefore the weekend! If that's true, plug in 42 (round trip to Alamogordo and back), otherwise make it a blank cell.
Five trips for an additional 210 miles, at $0.21 per mile towards my state taxes! I have to manually eliminate dupes for multiple transactions on the same day, being multiple drugs refilled and picked up at the same time.
I use spreadsheets a fair amount, but not for anything particularly complex, just as a general purpose tool, so I was kinda chuffed to find this. The question is whether or not I'll remember it for next year!
Roped in
Apr. 13th, 2026 08:58 pmThe pressing issues of the day are parking, lighting, and rats. The Facey-B group for the HOA has the torches and pitchforks out for a business in the boundaries of the HOA that has some (if the photos are to be believed) pretty serious rat problems at their foundation. No indication that they're inside, but the business isn't doing anything to control them outside, either. City Code Enforcement has been out to inspect and warn the owner to get on it. The owner, however, claims to be an attorney and is threatening slander and libel lawsuits. Which is why we're going to let the city go at it. In the meantime, the HOA itself does not control the Facey-B group, thankfully, so there's no there there for a suit. D-R-A-M-A.
Thankfully our newish management company is much more on top of these things than the last one, so the manager has things well in hand with addressing what we can address (calling the city, having the HOA pest people out to handle our stuff).
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Apr. 11th, 2026 09:22 pmToday my sister and partner went to visit friends about 2 hours away. Since the sun was out I did some yard work. I had found out that Walmart would deliver mulch if you order before the runner so I had 6 bags dropped at the house today. I put in a tip on line when I ordered and I tipped the guy a $20 when he said he would bring the bags where I wanted them put. I also saw that Walmart would deliver flowers... nothing special, but I was curious and had some pansies delivered too. I ended up spending 4 hours outside. It was nice. It was my normal.
Dad continues to do well. He is just 6 weeks out from the heart surgery. I took him out for a walk to the corner store where he buys his lottery tickets. The store owner was so happy to see him. He offered to give us a ride home. That was very nice, but I said this was Dad's therapy so the walk was needed. This week Dad will be signed of on Physical Therapy. I don't think the visiting therapist has done much, but the sign off get's Dad closer to going back to work and closer to driving again. Back to his normal.
Part of my new normal is better eating. I think some of my exhaustion is lack of vitamins and too much crap food from eating out. I need lots more veggies. I have some recipes for me. I have been making freezer meals for Dad so I can pull stuff out for him and microwave while I grill or stir fry for myself.
Today that gauche class was released so I bought it.
The case of the missing notifications
Apr. 11th, 2026 11:58 pmI keep forgetting to post about this: we've been troubleshooting the "missing notifications" problem for the past few days. (Well, I say "we", really I mean Mark and Robby; I'm just the amanuensis.) It's been one of those annoying loops of "find a logical explanation for what could be causing the problem, fix that thing, observe that the problem gets better for some people but doesn't go away completely, go back to step one and start again", sigh.
Mark is hauling out the heavy debugging ordinance to try to find the root cause. Once he's done building all the extra logging tools he needs, he'll comment to this entry. After he does, if you find a comment that should have gone to your inbox and sent an email notification but didn't, leave him a link to the comment that should have sent the notification, as long as the comment itself was made after Mark says he's collecting them. (I'd wait and post this after he gets the debug code in but I need to go to sleep and he's not sure how long it will take!)
We're sorry about the hassle! Irregular/sporadic issues like this are really hard to troubleshoot because it's impossible to know if they're fixed or if they're just not happening while you're looking. With luck, this will give us enough information to figure out the root cause for real this time.
Mayonnaise
Apr. 11th, 2026 10:28 pmLet no one tell you that mayonnaise is difficult to make. It is not. Most sources online will tell you to go through this complicated drill, getting the eggs to room temperature, drizzling oil slowly into a food processor, and watching nervously in hopes that the emulsion will take. Pure poppycock.
All you need is a quart sized mason jar and an immersion blender. Toss in one and a quarter cups of a neutral oil (canola, vegetable or "light tasting" olive oil), one large egg, 1/2 teaspoon salt, 1/2 teaspoon ground mustard, 2 tablespoons lemon juice, and blend the stuff right in the mason jar. Easy peasy. If it doesn't come together, something is wrong with your ratios (i.e., you put too much oil in) or something is wrong with one of the ingredients. I know this because I had two batches not come together this afternoon because the oil was off. Switched oils (with fresh other ingredients, naturally), and voila, came together like a champ. Hardest part is getting the immersion blender blade assembly out of the jar and scooping the mayo off of it and into the jar.
Catching up
Apr. 11th, 2026 10:13 pmGot to the airport (BWI - Thurgood Marshall Baltimore Washington International airport), got parked, got through TSA without a hitch. Then apparently sometime between sitting down and boarding it began to snow. So they had to de-ice the plane. Then it began snowing harder, which meant they needed to re-de-ice the plane using a different, stronger de-icing treatment. Sat on the plane while they did all that, then finally got in the air. Flight itself was fine, but as we were approaching it became clear there was no way in hell we were going to make our connection. United rebooked us to a later flight while we were still trying to get off the first one, because our original flight finalized boarding while we were still deplaning.
Then somehow we wandered through two terminals at the Houston airport that were ... rough. The first looked like the basement of an old municipal buildings: concrete, cinderblock walls, scuffed up earth tones, etc. Caught a shuttle from that one one to the other, which looked slightly better, but still in desperate need of a refresh. Caught some lunch from a no-name sports bar, and halfway through the meal we got told we were being moved to yet a third terminal. Thankfully it was an easy rail ride to that one, which was okay, but still nothing to write home about. In the air for one of the smoothest rides I've had on a small plane, and down to McAllen.
Visited, enjoyed seeing people. Took the three nieces to lunch one day with just them and us so we could talk to them without their parents or mine. Parents were okay. Did get my Dad set up with the hearing aid function on the air pods I'd gotten him for Xmas, which definitely helped his level of involvement, since he could finally hear people. On the other hand, he's also managed to alienate all three of his granddaughters by being a jerk to live with (my brother, his wife, and their three girls all live in a 5 bedroom house with my parents). *sigh* What a mess. But, overall, a nice visit over the long weekend.
The Sunday before we were scheduled to leave it got up to 102F/38.6C (!!!!!). A bit warm, especially since it was snowing when we left Maryland. We were supposed to fly out Monday, then the weather people got themselves all up in a lather over spring thunderstorms and tornado warnings, and air travel turned into a disaster. They got so worked up that schools back in Maryland were closing at 2 or 3 in the afternoon to get everyone home, which meant that workplaces had to do the same. Before we even got to the airport Monday morning we'd gotten an alert that our flight was delayed from 9:30 to 10:50. At the airport it was further delayed to noon, then quickly cancelled altogether. Apparently things were backing up in Houston, with nothing being able to go further east, so they started limiting what could come in. We rebooked as soon as we got the cancellation, but couldn't get out until Wednesday. Two extra days with the family.
With the rebooked flights we gave ourselves a lot of extra time in Houston to make sure we could make the connection. Early, early morning flight, which went off without a hitch, including the TSA process. We were a bit worried because it was the beginning of all the news reports about hours long delays at the major airports. McAllen is so small we sailed right through. When we arrived in Houston this time, though, we were convinced we'd been punked the last time - the C and D terminals have been renovated, very nicely, with good food choices, plenty of clean bathrooms, etc. Was a totally different experience than the first trip through. Was also glad we gave ourselves more time between flights - didn't feel as rushed/stressed about making the next batch, even if it meant more time in the terminal.
Kanye blocked from entering the UK, festival cancelled
Apr. 7th, 2026 09:17 amHe applied for an Electronic Travel Authorization, basically a short-term entry visa to headline the Wireless Music Festival this summer in London. And the Home Office noped out of it, saying "Antisemitism in all its forms is abhorrent, and we recognise the real and personal impact these issues have had. As Ye said today, he acknowledges that words alone are not enough, and in spite of this still hopes to be given the opportunity to begin a conversation with the Jewish community in the UK."
Already purchased tickets will be refunded.
The UK has a policy that convicted felons will not be admitted, I wonder if it will be applied to a certain felon after he leaves office.... one can but hope.
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4gxk3kxjr0o?utm_source=buzzfeed&utm_medium=iframely
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Apr. 6th, 2026 08:02 pmThey really liked the Tuscan style ribs. I thought they were good, but could be better. I need a spice grinder for the rub as I don't have the patience to pound it out with a mortar and pestle. The glaze was a mix of homey and balsamic vinegar with Rosemary. I only had dry rosemary. Next time I will use fresh.